RED FLAGS IN A MAN’S APARTMENT

  • MEDICINE CABINET: Will you be pleasantly surprised by-extra large condoms or shocked by STD prescriptions?  Players often stock multiple packs of toothbrushes.
  • BATHROOM: Anyone can dust, but a shower free of mold and hair is a true sign of cleanliness.
  • KITCHEN: Unless he’s a health nut, Splenda, fat-free yogurt and lots of salad could be red flags.
  • UNDER THE BED: This is where people stash everything dirty before dates.
  • CONTEXT: Feminine hygiene products or lipstick on dirty cups make sense if the guy has a female roommate or visitor.

From what he chooses as wall art to where he puts his workout equipment, a series of experts have explained what signs to look for when decoding single male decor. Interior designer Meg Caswell tells Glo that a bare mattress is an obvious bad sign in the bedroom, because it means that he’s rarely home and, more importantly, ‘sheets are never changed’. But the man living in a perfectly-styled apartment with a bed made so tightly that quarters would bounce ‘is probably the kind of guy who walks into a bar and can pinpoint the women he wants to go out with right away’. Read more

ELLE: Decoding Body Language, CSI-style

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Research shows that 70 to 90 percent of communication is non-verbal.But since so many gestures have multiple meanings, even the most highly trained experts only have around a 60 percent success rate of figuring out what physical responses mean. So what are your chances of reading body language on an average date, especially once you factor in low lighting, two drinks, and maybe some Botox? [. . .]

Mail-order bride boom

Could a mail-order bride website become the new Match.com? Fortune magazine reports that websites like AnastasiaDate are trying to shed the shady images of green card goldiggers and abusive American men in search of Stepford slaves. They have re-branded the mail-order bride business ‘premium international dating’.According to U.S. immigration statistics there were roughly 200 international marriage broker agencies in 1999 that coordinated between 4,000 and 6,000 marriages. By 2010, there were twice as many agencies – and 10,000 and 15,000 couples tying the knot. [. . .]

What to wear on a first date: Men vs. Women

A casting agent for Vogue has opened up about how her date, a 49-year-old Goldman Sachs lawyer, told her that she wasn’t showing enough skin. He said ‘you should have worn a skirt,’ she writes on her blog Tales of Endearment. ‘This wasn’t meant as a joke. He continued to complain about my lack of skin until we left the restaurant.’ According to her date, wearing a short skirt was ‘the only way to tell the guy is a “James Bond”‘ because ‘if he can keep his cool while you’re sitting there flaunting your goods, he’s a real man.’ Joos’ story should be viewed as a cautionary tale about how differently men and women view first date attire. Like Joos, many women go into dates with a feeling of being ‘helpless and desperate to please.’ [. . .]

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