Swinger’s Dictionary Decoded

Swinging: Also referred to as ‘The Lifestyle’, swinging is a non-monogamous behavior in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activity with others as a recreational or social activity.

Cheating: Marital infidelity without your partner’s knowledge or consent.

Open relationship: A term to describe a relationship arrangement in which both parties in a couple are permitted to engage with other individuals, with or without the knowledge of their primary partner.

‘The Rules’: For swingers, ‘The Rules’ are guidelines and principles agreed on by couples to participate in the lifestyle.

Swinging scale: The range of acceptable swinging activities as determined by a couple and/or an individual.

Full Swap: Full swinging experience – no holds barred.

Full Swap, Same Room: Full swinging experience, but both partners must remain in the same room throughout.

Soft Swap: A limited swinging experience where the line is typically drawn short of sexual intercourse.

Vanilla: Term used to describe people who do not participate in the lifestyle.

Unicorn: Term described to describe a single female – also referred to as the ‘mythical creature’ – who engages in sexual activity with another couple. There is no known male equivalent.

Cruise Director: Term used to describe the individual who is in charge of the action at a swinging event.

A new reality show will follow five ‘average, all-American’ couples as they juggle marriages, careers and daily life with swinging. Couples that star in Secret Sex Lives: Swingers are professionals and parents in committed relationships living in Atlanta, Southern town in the heart of the Bible belt with a lively swinger’s scene’, and are in committed relationships. [. . .]

The White Middle Class Girl’s Guide to Prison: My interview with Orange is the New Black Author Piper Kerman

Orange is the New Black author Piper Kerman says her time behind bars taught her that justice in America depends on income and skin color. Ms Kerman’s memoir about her stint in federal prison between 2003 and 2004 is now a hit Netflix series starring Taylor Schilling, Laura Prepon and Jason Biggs.

‘My time in the US criminal justice system made very real to me the huge inequality amongst Americans,’ Ms Kerman said in a new interview with MailOnline.

‘I think that I had to discover and rely on my best self to survive the prison system,’ Ms Kerman said. After wondering if she would ‘be pegged the snotty rich bitch’ after seeing ‘very West Side story’ dorms with names like  ‘The Suburbs’, ‘The Ghetto’ and ‘Spanish Harlem’, she quickly figured out that her best chance of survival was learning to fit in. Read more

What makes ‘The Perfect Man’? He’s well-educated, successful at 40, doesn’t get drunk and is probably a doctor

A new poll claims to reveal the perfect man: He’s a 40-year-old, successful moderate drinking doctor who looks like Patrick Dempsey. The survey was conducted by 60 Minutes/Vanity Fair and asked 1,168 adults nationwide about the qualities they believe are important in a mate.Top of the list was education, with 35per cent ranking it a young man’s most important priority as he matures. This is followed closely by becoming a hard worker and a gentleman, at 28 and 27per cent respectively. Only one per cent picked ‘athlete’ as a top priority. Read more

THE MORNING AFTER: WAYS TO MACGYVER YOUR MAKEUP

An addition to my piece in the Daily Mail today about makeup that’s meant to be worn overnight…for those of us who fail to plan ahead  [. . .]

  • Vaseline works as an eye makeup remover, lip gloss, and hair split end sealer
  • Use a matchbook as a nail file
  • Kool Aid or red Gatorade can turn into lip/cheek stain
  • Hydrogen peroxide can be used  as mouthwash in a pinch (just don’t swallow!)
  • Olive oil doubles as face cream
  • No ponytail holder? Try dental floss

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